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Welcome to Thoughts, Dots, and Tots! This site is home to the advice column “Dear Hailey“, as well as posts on many different topics including marriage, self-care, mental health, and motherhood shenanigans.


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This is Your “Hard” (Lessons in Grieving)

“You just need to get over it.” “Stop wallowing.” “Snap out it.” “It could always be worse.” A few weeks ago, I was talking with someone who was experiencing some significant struggles in their life, and they told me that someone close to them told them they just needed to[Read more]

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What to Buy for a Baby Shower Gift (For any Budget!)

Before I had my son, I was super clueless on what to buy friends for baby showers. I would wander the baby aisle in the store for longer than I care to admit and eventually end up randomly choosing a few items and calling it good. Sometimes the mom-to-be will[Read more]

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Are You New Here?

“Are you new? I don’t know you.” There I was, sitting waiting for the last hour of church to start, and I look up to see a woman that I knew by name. Two of her kids were in the Sunday school class that I taught every Sunday. I had[Read more]

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How to Survive Your First Week Back From Maternity Leave

Heading back to work after being home with your beautiful new baby is scary, exciting, and…busy. You have just barely figured out how to make life work with a baby. It’s hard to even imagine ever coming back from maternity leave (If you haven’t chosen a daycare yet, read my[Read more]

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To the Mom with Young Kids at Church: It’s Worth it

I see you. Carrying a baby in one arm, and a heavy diaper bag in the other. Maybe a toddler running around too, pulling on your skirt. It took a lot of work to get here, but you still have a tough few hours ahead of you. You get everyone[Read more]

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How I Lost 20 Pounds (and Counting!)

I’m super excited because I have finally reached a pretty exciting milestone! I lost 20 pounds! In honor of my recent weight loss, I wanted to talk about how I got here. It’s a little different than my usual posts, but I wish someone had told me what I had[Read more]

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A Guide to Surviving a Sick Baby

You did everything right, washed your hands, washed their hands, didn’t let them near sick kids….but they still got that nasty bug that was floating around. You now have a sick baby on your hands! As you know if you follow the blog, my son attends daycare. Most of the[Read more]

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Advice Column: Response to Wish I was a Stay at Home Mom

How can you get over having to be a working mom/breadwinner when all you really want is to be a Stay at Home Mom? Sincerely, Wish I was a stay at home mom     Dear Wish, As mothers, we do what is right for our kids. I’m currently a[Read more]

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Advice Column: Will My Anxiety Return After Pregnancy?

Dear Hailey, If you had anxiety and depression prior to getting pregnant and breastfeeding and then those things went away with the hormone changes from pregnancy and breastfeeding, are you destined to get back all of the yucky feelings when you wean and your hormones go back to ‘normal’? How[Read more]

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A Guide to Choosing The Perfect Mom Job

If you follow the blog, you already know that I chose to go back to work after my son was born. It wasn’t an easy decision, but it was right for me and my family. I feel so incredibly blessed to have a job that I enjoy, and that works[Read more]

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