I had a best friend whose family is pretty close to my current spouse. Recently we tried to make amends and started to hang out recently. I am struggling with allowing her back into my life.
Here is the back story. I met my spouse through her as he was her brother’s best friend. Shortly after my boyfriend committed suicide, we started to talk periodically online at all hours. He eventually asked me out on a date. After our first date she found out and told her brother that he tried to have sex with her. It grew … Read more
I am stuck! My future in laws drive me CRAZY! Me and my boyfriend decided we want to buy a house. I’m unemployed at the moment, so we decided to see if he could get approved for a loan on his own. And he did! A great amount and I couldn’t be more proud! The loan is fully in his name, but this will be our house. I’ve saved quite a bit more than him over the years for this very moment. Since I have more saved, we decided that I’d cover most of the costs.
Once we … Read more
Many years ago my then girlfriend (whom I shall call “Tara”) knew I liked those outdoor thermometers which are in the form of a famous soda pop brand. An elderly woman who Tara cleaned for once a week had one of those thermometers attached to the side of her house. Tara gave one to me for my birthday. I asked where she got it because it looked used. She said she stole it from the elderly woman she cleaned house for.
I wrongly kept it because I was afraid if I returned it to the rightful owner I … Read more
I’m having a big problem with my mental health and I was wondering if you could answer my question. Recently I have come into a pit of anxiety and depression. I am a gay man married to a woman. I married my wife because I thought that would convince people I am straight and they wouldn’t be homophobic towards me. However, I’ve become unhappy and I feel trapped in my marriage. I fear people will not accept me if I show who I truly am. Because of this, I am “eating my feelings” as people call it. I … Read more
I’m currently 27 weeks pregnant. When I initially found out, one of my Acquaintances (who can’t have children) suddenly got really clingy. She began texting me more often, which turned into 2 hour phone calls, which then led to attempted self invited visits to my house. She expects updates when I have appointments and seems to want to know what I am up to every second of the day. Upon one trip to the hospital because of complication she got upset that I didn’t call her to come sit with me. My child’s father wasn’t even with me.… Read more
Your advice is always so full of wisdom and brilliant insight. I really enjoy your column.
I’m 40F and super close with my parents; we chat daily on the phone. My mom and dad, married 42 years, are very much in love.
However, they have a recurring conflict. Step 1: Dad does something incorrect according to Mom’s rules (for example, Dad bought a large sandwich to share, which resulted in leftovers) 2: Mom nags at Dad. 3. Dad is silent, but later explodes. 4. Mom apologizes, and soon the cycle repeats.
When my mom calls to tell me … Read more
So my girlfriend says I don’t give her enough attention. Her reasoning is that because my family stays up so late I never facetime her and only when it’s convenient for me (my family and I hang out nightly from roughly 7pm till 11). I constantly text her throughout the day even when I’m working but my family and I enjoy being together. She lives about an hour away so I only see her weekly. What am I doing wrong?
Dear Random Dude,
When expectations aren’t being met, it’s good to define them. This goes for … Read more
How do I handle my lazy supervisor? We are working from home during quarantine and I can’t quit my job now but it’s getting extremely difficult to keep working with someone who lays most ,if not all, of the work on me and does the bare minimum. She delegates 75% of the work to me, logs off, and then tells me to just complete the remaining 25% even though she has done absolutely nothing the entire day. She’s so lazy that sometimes she doesn’t even check her emails and tells me to do it instead. It’s been going … Read more
This may be an odd question for your advice column but I figured it was worth a shot of asking.
My closest guy friend lives across the country from me in California and we’ve been friends for 10+ years now. We met when I was 16 and he was 18. We have never formally met in person but we’ve talked on the phone and face timed tons of times. I can talk to him about anything with no fear of judgement.
He was in a relationship for 6 years and engaged to the girl but broke off the … Read more
My husband has a friend who is very sheltered and comes off as judgmental at times. My parents divorced when I was younger and did not grow up rich but was not poor either. This friend often comments on where I grew up in a negative way. He recently sent my husband an article about the negative impact of divorce upon children and upon children when they grow into adults. There were many impacts listed (most negative), one which stood out to me being how divorce can have a negative impact upon the child’s own marriage when they … Read more