The days I drive the baby to daycare, my 15 minute commute turns into 40 minutes each way in the car. This gets old fast. Driving is boring! One day, I was singing my heart out, using my steering wheel as a drum, and just having an awesome time. It made my drive go by so much faster. When I pulled off the country road and back into town, I toned it down. But why?
Because I didn’t want anyone to see me.
This is completely normal. I doubt I’m the only one who thinks like that. But here’s what is wrong with that picture. Why do I care what people I don’t even know think? And really, why should I care what people think even if I actually know them?
As I’ve written about before, there is a really limited amount of people that really matter. So why are we so focused on impressing random people? And I totally get trying to put a good foot forward, but what we are working towards, really?
I am someone who likes to fly under the radar, (part of what makes this blog so scary for me!) I’m drawn to more muted colors, and I drive a charcoal colored car. I like these colors, but I also like how they don’t draw attention to me. I really should wear what I darn well please though. (And I am getting better!)
We live for us. We don’t live for those around us. The part people outside our family unit play in our lives is miniscule. We interact with them in a limited capacity.
We spend all of our time in our own bodies. We spend the majority of our time in our homes, with our loved ones. Our interactions with those outside our essential systems are very inconsequential, but we allow them to make a big impact in our lives for some reason. (Social workers are focused on the systems individuals are a part of, so that is why there is so much talk of systems in this post!)
So what point am I trying to make here in my ramblings? I’m not saying that we need to start wearing our pj’s to the grocery store and stop wearing make up. I personally think that it is important to look nice and presentable. But like I have previously stated in other posts do these things for yourself, not those around you.
My challenge to you is to take baby steps toward not caring what people think. What is one small thing you can do this week? My personal challenge for myself is to sing in the car (when people can see me!) and I’ll continue to make baby steps from there. What are you going to do? Leave me a comment, let me know!