Why “Never go to Bed Angry” is Utter and Complete Garbage Advice

Before you tell me I’m wrong, hear me out. 

My husband and I don’t fight very often, but when we do, 99% of the time we are exhausted, right before bedtime. We’re fighting because we are exhausted, not because of a real reason or issue. We’re worn out, frustrated, and just…done.

Instead of continuing to fight, we head to bed and go to sleep. We wake up in the morning, read more

7 Ways to Turn Someone’s Day Around

I had another one of those days. A day that didn’t turn out awesome. It started out fine, and basically went to crap as the day wore on.

I’ve become moderately obsessed with vinyl, and I was at the very end of a complex project, and I messed it up. It was a layered project and while putting it together I didn’t align it right, and I ruined the entire thing.

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How Often do I Complain About Blessings?

 

I had a significant realization recently. About something troubling.

I complain about blessings. ALL THE TIME.

This sounds ridiculous, but it happens to most of us.

There is a beautiful, crazy, destructive, sweet, tiny human that entered my life almost two years ago. He is an ENORMOUS blessing, but sometimes I forget. Sometimes, I think more about the restrictions on my freedom read more

The Self-Care Challenge

If you’ve been on Thoughts, Dots, and Tots before, you probably heard me talk about self-care before. And… I’m going to talk about it again. Its something that I absolutely cannot cover enough. It’s not because I’m out of ideas, or I’ve forgotten what I’ve written about before. This topic is simply so important that it bears repeating.

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Daycare isn’t a Curse Word

I’ve written about daycare on the blog before. About why I refuse to apologize for taking my son to daycare, and why I refuse to apologize for my decision to be a working mom. A list of tips for choosing quality daycare. In the broader scope of this topic, I even had someone write into the advice column asking about dealing working when they want to be stay home with their kids.

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14 Ways to Help Your Child Cope with Anxiety

A dear friend asked me a couple months ago for suggestions with helping kids with anxiety. These suggestions come from my experience as a mental health professional, a mom, and a human with anxiety. Here is what you need to know, and some ideas on how to help your child cope.

Anxiety presents differently in young kids than in adults

It will often present itself as physical symptoms, such as a stomach ache. This can happen with adults too, read more

8 Tips for Dealing with a Jerk

It’s an unfortunate fact of life that we will encounter some jerks as we go about our lives. I had the displeasure of coming across one of the meanest people I have ever met this week. I am very proud to say that I kept my cool and I treated them with respect. And in true Hailey fashion I wrote a post about it! (This post focuses on people you may come across in public. If you read more

7 Things to Say to Someone who is Struggling (Other than “What can I do for you?”)

We’ve all been in the situation where someone is struggling, and we say, “Let me know what I can do for you.” We walk away feeling charitable because we offered, and they leave feeling about the same because they almost definitely are NOT going to call.

So, what’s a better alternative?

First off…bring your offer into the present.

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