I’ve had to live with my parents into the current year (I’m 22) due to a health condition that makes it difficult to find a job. Also living with my parents are my younger sister Oat (19), my older sister Barley (28), and Barley’s 2 kids, Sorghum (4) and Wheat (2). It was very happy for me at first to have both my sisters and my beloved niece and nephew living in a house with me. We’re a very close family and I used to think we got along really well.
However, more and more it’s become apparent … Read more
I’m friends with this guy he is 24 and I’m 18. We were cool till I developed feelings but he didn’t feel the same way and I kinda blew up and said I don’t want to be friends anymore. He was upset but we’ve ironed everything out. Then we got in another fight and we fixed things again. Now he is dating a girl and changing his ways he is the sweetest guy but now he is kinda cocky. Should I cut away from him or stay?
And it hurts me hearing him talk about this girl…and it’s … Read more
As inappropriate as it feels to ‘need’ a baby shower, my husband was JUST laid off a number of weeks ago and we, after several miscarriages, are finally expecting our first child in August.
My successful, established, younger sister very recently announced her impending nuptials for 3 weeks after our due date.
My mother, just yesterday, decided to no longer throw a baby shower for us until October at the earliest but I have been charged with organizing the bridal shower, set for 2 weeks prior to due date.
I’m feeling rather snubbed, however we have not openly … Read more
My friend is wanting to divorce her husband, for various and valid reasons,and they have a child together. She has moved out from their home together and is living with her parents again, which she is struggling with. She is having a hard time moving on from the idea of an intact family, but continues to spend a lot of time at her former home with the ex and their child (who is also having trouble accepting the change).
This feels a lot like playing house to me, and it seems like it’s confusing for everyone because she … Read more
I met a smart, fun, successful, beautiful, and fiery lawyer 3 years ago while working in DC. It was the best year of my life to that point dating her. We married a year later and she moved to Colorado. The marriage was great for 9 months, and then we let the stresses of work, parenting, finances, and being 2 alpha personalities get the better of us and we got into a volatile environment that we were unable to resolve. I moved from our marital home with my kids after a year of marriage to remove them from … Read more
A friend of mine was recently married. We’ve been close for six years; the first three spent in the same city and the more recent three spent several hours apart when she moved 200 miles east to be close to her family. I have spent holidays with her and am close with her mom and her sister as well.
She met the partner of her dreams and they would stay in my 2nd bedroom whenever they’d come back this way to visit. We remained close and would talk on the phone regularly, and I was one of the … Read more
This is my first time writing into an advice column. My sister and mother are currently fighting and it’s getting vicious, they almost punched each other out tonight. My sister treats my mother with zero respect and almost ignores her daughter who is in the care of my mother, my mother is sick of it and has said very hurtful things to my sister like how the car that my grandmother left for her wasn’t hers and that the only reason the registration is in her name is because it’s cheaper.
My mother is also wanting her to … Read more
How should I go about dealing with not liking my boyfriend’s friends?
Some background context: my boyfriend and I met and started dating two months ago in one of our college classes which we share together. At first, everything was great, sparks flew, I was quite swept off my feet by this guy (and I’m well aware this is how the honeymoon phase always starts). However, as time goes by and you start to get closer to someone, you start to notice certain things you don’t like about the person.
We talk about a lot of things and … Read more
You may have noticed that the blog has been quiet. I’ve been answering advice column questions as they come through, but other than that there really hasn’t been any new content up on the blog in a few months. There have been a multitude of events happening in our household, all exciting, some positive, some not so much, and all incredibly exhausting. One very wonderful fact is that I am 31 weeks pregnant with our second little munchkin! Things are settling in (a little) so I’m back!
2019 has been one of my toughest years yet. But I’m still here! … Read more
My spouse is from a small tight knit family with no extended
family. We were recently invited to go with them from CA to AZ for a visit to
the Grand Canyon. We agreed to go, took the time off work and got everything in
order to make it happen. One day before the event, her family decided it would
be a good idea to get an RV instead of staying in the hotel we had planned.
What should I do?
Dear Closed in,
I gather from your letter that you aren’t on board with the … Read more