Advice Column: Response to Jane D.

Dear Hailey,

My husband’s ex-wife is planning a Christmas gathering with more households and people than recommended during COVID-19. The day after, my husband still plans on his daughter coming to our house for a few days. I feel this is putting my safety at unnecessary risk. I plan on staying somewhere else for 2 weeks to quarantine from both of them. I am angry at the selfishness and disrespect beyond explanation.

I have kept that to myself and am doing what I need to do for my wellbeing. An argument wouldn’t be worth it. What I don’t know is … Read more

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Advice Column: Response to “The Girlfriend”

Dear Hailey,

I have been dating a widowed man for almost 8 years. I moved into his family home (at his urging) 3 years ago. He is a father to four adult children (ages 21-30). His 30 year old son lives in the basement and is under/un employed at this time. He may be addicted to video games, and often is up all night playing them, then sleeps until late in the afternoon. Prior to COVID he worked part time (20 hours a week). His father pays for his auto insurance and his cell phone, and sometimes charges his $150/month … Read more

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Advice Column: Stressed out Sister

Dear Hailey,

I’ve always prided myself on my ability to give advice, when it’s asked for, to my friends and family. I enjoy helping my loved ones out when they’re having issues. The problem is that my sister comes to me several times per week for hours long sessions that exhaust me. I love my sister and want to help her but I always end up feeling drained after consoling and advising her. 

A little backstory, I am the middle child of 3. I have an older brother and a younger sister. I am 5 years older than my sister … Read more

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Advice Column: Response to Stuck in High School

Dear Hailey,

I have been feeling like I’ve been at a cross-roads for about 4 months now. I’ve talked it with my therapist and all of my friends and family and nothing is helping me find an answer or even feel better about the situation. 

When I was in high school there was this guy that I was absolutely in love with. We never dated, or even did anything romantic whatsoever, I just had an insane crush on him for my entire Junior and Senior year of high school. I am 90% sure he liked me back too, but we … Read more

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Advice Column: Response to Binx

Dear Hailey,

A person I know who is more of an acquaintance than a close friend is giving away items that she owns. She plans to move to a smaller place and wants to downsize. She had many boxes of books that she didn’t want anymore. I told her I like a certain genre of books and asked if she would put some aside for me. So she gave me a box of books, mostly paperbacks. She took other boxes of books to the curb so the trash collectors could pick them up.

The problem is that the box she … Read more

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Advice Column: Response to Clarify

Dear Hailey,

I was in a long term relationship, and we were engaged to be married. It’s been almost a year since I left my fiancé, which was one of the best/hardest decisions I’ve had to make, but I would have been miserable if I went through with it. I am just beginning to feel comfortable with the idea of dating again (though a bit rusty), and have been on and off talking to someone for about a month or two. 

I casually met him a few times (through a coworker) way before we started talking, so he’s not a … Read more

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Advice Column: Response to Concerned

Dear Hailey,

I had a best friend whose family is pretty close to my current spouse. Recently we tried to make amends and started to hang out recently. I am struggling with allowing her back into my life.

Here is the back story. I met my spouse through her as he was her brother’s best friend. Shortly after my boyfriend committed suicide, we started to talk periodically online at all hours. He eventually asked me out on a date. After our first date she found out and told her brother that he tried to have sex with her. It grew … Read more

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Advice Column: Response to “Stuck”

Dear Hailey,

I am stuck! My future in laws drive me CRAZY! Me and my boyfriend decided we want to buy a house. I’m unemployed at the moment, so we decided to see if he could get approved for a loan on his own. And he did! A great amount and I couldn’t be more proud! The loan is fully in his name, but this will be our house. I’ve saved quite a bit more than him over the years for this very moment. Since I have more saved, we decided that I’d cover most of the costs.

Once we … Read more

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Advice Column: Response to KC

Dear Hailey,

Many years ago my then girlfriend (whom I shall call “Tara”) knew I liked those outdoor thermometers which are in the form of a famous soda pop brand. An elderly woman who Tara cleaned for once a week had one of those thermometers attached to the side of her house. Tara gave one to me for my birthday. I asked where she got it because it looked used. She said she stole it from the elderly woman she cleaned house for.

I wrongly kept it because I was afraid if I returned it to the rightful owner I … Read more

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Advice Column: Response to Eating my Feelings

Dear Hailey,


I’m having a big problem with my mental health and I was wondering if you could answer my question. Recently I have come into a pit of anxiety and depression. I am a gay man married to a woman. I married my wife because I thought that would convince people I am straight and they wouldn’t be homophobic towards me. However, I’ve become unhappy and I feel trapped in my marriage. I fear people will not accept me if I show who I truly am. Because of this, I am “eating my feelings” as people call it. I … Read more

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