Advice Column: Response to The Back-up Friend

Dear Hailey,

I have a close friend who I’ve known for a long time. We are both in our 30’s and this past summer she got engaged to a man she met online. They didn’t date long before announcing the engagement (6 weeks).

I am happy for her, but I feel like I’ve been shoved aside- granted I KNOW that the boyfriend/fiance/husband relationship does become the first priority because that’s the person you’re going to spend forever with and all, but this person has always been super considerate and thoughtful, but since she started seeing him we haven’t talked much … Read more

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Advice Column: Response to Next Phase

Dear Hailey,

I’m at a weird moment in my life. A question has, in sense, hit me and made me think of what I really want to do with my life. The question: “What would you do if money was not an issue?” was brought to my 28 year old self attention and I did not have answer and that made the whole thing make me feel like I was out of place. Would I travel? Write? Become a baker? Maybe a fitness instructor?

And it seems that my husband has found this answer for himself and is having him … Read more

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Advice Column: Response to Baby Crazy

Dear Hailey,

This is weighing so heavy on me and I’m not sure how to do anymore. My husband and I have been together for 13 years and have two ridiculously awesome boys together who are 7 and 8. We are in our mid thirties. Our kids were surprises the first time around. I was 25 and on birth control when I got pregnant with number one and was breastfeeding around the clock and rarely had – ahem – time to even create a second baby when I got pregnant with number two. 

We never got to plan or be … Read more

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Advice Column: Response to Fed up Rye

 Dear Hailey,

I’ve had to live with my parents into the current year (I’m 22) due to a health condition that makes it difficult to find a job. Also living with my parents are my younger sister Oat (19), my older sister Barley (28), and Barley’s 2 kids, Sorghum (4) and Wheat (2). It was very happy for me at first to have both my sisters and my beloved niece and nephew living in a house with me. We’re a very close family and I used to think we got along really well.

However, more and more it’s become apparent … Read more

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Advice Column: Response to Lost

Dear Hailey,

I’m friends with this guy he is 24 and I’m 18. We were cool till I developed feelings but he didn’t feel the same way and I kinda blew up and said I don’t want to be friends anymore. He was upset but we’ve ironed everything out. Then we got in another fight and we fixed things again. Now he is dating a girl and changing his ways he is the sweetest guy but now he is kinda cocky. Should I cut away from him or stay?


And it hurts me hearing him talk about this girl…and it’s … Read more

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Advice Column: Response to Overwhelmed and Coming Undone

Dear Hailey,

As inappropriate as it feels to ‘need’ a baby shower, my husband was JUST laid off a number of weeks ago and we, after several miscarriages, are finally expecting our first child in August.

My successful, established, younger sister very recently announced her impending nuptials for 3 weeks after our due date.

My mother, just yesterday, decided to no longer throw a baby shower for us until October at the earliest but I have been charged with organizing the bridal shower, set for 2 weeks prior to due date.


I’m feeling rather snubbed, however we have not openly … Read more

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Advice Column: Response to Fed up

Dear Hailey,

My friend is wanting to divorce her husband, for various and valid reasons,and they have a child together. She has moved out from their home together and is living with her parents again, which she is struggling with. She is having a hard time moving on from the idea of an intact family, but continues to spend a lot of time at her former home with the ex and their child (who is also having trouble accepting the change).

This feels a lot like playing house to me, and it seems like it’s confusing for everyone because she … Read more

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Advice Column: Start Fresh or Continue on?

Dear Hailey,

I met a smart, fun, successful, beautiful, and fiery lawyer 3 years ago while working in DC. It was the best year of my life to that point dating her. We married a year later and she moved to Colorado. The marriage was great for 9 months, and then we let the stresses of work, parenting, finances, and being 2 alpha personalities get the better of us and we got into a volatile environment that we were unable to resolve. I moved from our marital home with my kids after a year of marriage to remove them from … Read more

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Advice Column: Response to Hurt in Chapel Hill

Dear Hailey,


A friend of mine was recently married. We’ve been close for six years; the first three spent in the same city and the more recent three spent several hours apart when she moved 200 miles east to be close to her family. I have spent holidays with her and am close with her mom and her sister as well.


She met the partner of her dreams and they would stay in my 2nd bedroom whenever they’d come back this way to visit. We remained close and would talk on the phone regularly, and I was one of the … Read more

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Advice Column: Response to Concerned

Dear Hailey,

This is my first time writing into an advice column. My sister and mother are currently fighting and it’s getting vicious, they almost punched each other out tonight. My sister treats my mother with zero respect and almost ignores her daughter who is in the care of my mother, my mother is sick of it and has said very hurtful things to my sister like how the car that my grandmother left for her wasn’t hers and that the only reason the registration is in her name is because it’s cheaper.

My mother is also wanting her to … Read more

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