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Welcome to Thoughts, Dots, and Tots! This site is home to the advice column “Dear Hailey“, as well as posts on many different topics including marriage, self-care, mental health, and motherhood shenanigans.


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7 Tips to a Harmonious Baby-Puppy Relationship

There are two different types of dog families. Those who have dogs before babies, and those who have babies before dogs. We belong to the first type with our little puppy. We’ve had our little fur baby Maggie since a year into our marriage. She was our first child. When[Read more]

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Why Should You Quit Caring What Other People Think

The days I drive the baby to daycare, my 15 minute commute turns into 40 minutes each way in the car. This gets old fast. Driving is boring! One day, I was singing my heart out, using my steering wheel as a drum, and just having an awesome time. It[Read more]

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One Choice You Always Make (Every Single Day!)

My husband and I trekked to Boise to a concert this weekend. Eric Church, woo! It was fabulously fun. We blasted out our ear drums and sang our hearts out. Except for one thing. There was a girl behind us who was INCREDIBLY intoxicated, who kept spilling beer on me.[Read more]

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Why You Shouldn’t Care if Someone Unfriends You (Digitally or in Real Life!)

It’s happened to all of us, whether we notice or not. As a lifelong people pleaser, when I notice that someone unfriends me it can hurt my feelings. But I gave it some thought, and these are some of the common reasons, and why it shouldn’t bother you. (Warning, this[Read more]

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The Journey of Self-Acceptance: Tips to Work Towards Loving Yourself

Let’s talk about something that most of us struggle with: self-acceptance. People can tell when you are being yourself, they trust you more, and they feel more at ease with you. Anyone can tell from a mile away if you are being insincere. (Below photo credit goes to the fantastic[Read more]

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5 Tips for Coping with Change (For Those who HATE It!)

For someone who doesn’t care for change, I’ve done a lot of it in the past year! I started a new job. I had a baby. So my home life and work life are completely different! Instead of going home from work and relaxing, I’m wrangling an adorable little chunk[Read more]

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Daily Miracles (Admidst the Monotony of Parenthood)

The daily monotony of parenthood can be painful, and boring. It can seem like an endless stream of diapers, feedings, and spit up episodes (and subsequent outfit changes as a result). But let’s stop and think about what is happening right now. It might not seem like it, but you[Read more]

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Everything’s Perfect and I’m Still Sad: My Experience With Postpartum Depression

I alluded to my postpartum depression in a previous post about breastfeeding, but I thought it was important to give this more discussion. I’m making myself pretty vulnerable here, but it needs to be talked about more. So here we go…   What I was experiencing: I didn’t feel like[Read more]

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5 Things You Need to Know About Returning From Maternity Leave

I had very mixed feelings when my maternity leave ended and it was time to go back to work after my little man was born. I was going so stir crazy staying home with the baby and I was excited to go back to work, but I was terrified at[Read more]

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A Guide to Childbirth for the Overly Modest

Childbirth is a daunting thing to think about. Aside from the obvious dangers, and the fact that you are pushing a human being out of a very small opening (OUCH!), there is a room full of people who will be watching and helping. And to be honest with you, that[Read more]

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