My husband and I trekked to Boise to a concert this weekend. Eric Church, woo! It was fabulously fun. We blasted out our ear drums and sang our hearts out.
Except for one thing. There was a girl behind us who was INCREDIBLY intoxicated, who kept spilling beer on me. As someone who doesn’t drink (A religious as well as personal choice) this annoyed me even more than it would have your average person.
I was determined to not let it ruin my night, even though it was super annoying and incredibly inconsiderate, and you know why?
I don’t want to give anyone that much power over my life, even just for one night. My husband and I were off for our first whole night away alone since the baby had been born. Why would I give someone I don’t even know that much control?
This was a big deal. I was annoyed, especially when she dumped the entire cup and it made a puddle under my seat. It would have been so easy to get mad and have a crappy night because of it. For one, I didn’t want to get in a fight with a drunk person. That seemed like a bad idea. I had been having a fantastic time before that, so why should I let one drunk girl ruin my night? At intermission, we found out from the guy behind us that it would have been way worse to be next to her, for other reasons. (And she disappeared, just as I was considering alerting security!)
There’s always something that will have the ability to ruin our day. Maybe there was a piece of hair in our food. Maybe someone cut us off on the highway. The baby spit up on us on the way out the door. There are hundreds of tiny things that can happen in our daily lives that can ruin our day. But really, we choose if we are going to ruin our day or not. I hate to break it to you, but do you know who controls if you have a good day or not? You!
In counseling sessions there are few things that make my clients more mad at me than when I remind them of their personal responsibility and control over their own lives. It can be really uncomfortable to think about the control we possess over our quality of life. It’s a tough pill to swallow, that we can’t blame other people for our unhappiness.
This is a concept I am still working on. It’s something that I’ve improved at, but still have a long way to go. At the risk of sounding cliche, you control your life and your destiny. And that includes whether or not you have a good day! So choose to make today amazing. (Or not, it’s up to you!)