When it’s not the Greatest Day of Your Life

 

I had the opportunity to write a guest post for Hot Minute Mom! Check it out here! Or read below! (And credit for the above photo goes to one of our favorite photographers, Davina!)

I experienced one of the most beautiful moments in my life this weekend. What was unusual about this is that it wasn’t a romantic date, it wasn’t a holiday. I was sitting in church with my husband and baby, and the baby fell asleep laying across both of our laps. Really, it was just a Sunday. Nothing special, but it was one of the most beautiful moments I’ve experienced in my life. I was so content, and so at peace, sitting there with my little family. It is one of the few times I have been able to enjoy a moment and not worry about other things. This moment made me think about what really matters in life.

Because the truth is, while we can’t deny the significant role big days such as weddings, anniversaries, birthdays, and holidays play in our lives, we spend way more of our time doing unexciting tasks. More often than not, our time is spent completing mundane activities. We might be at work, we might be cleaning the house (AGAIN? I mean really, with all the technology out there shouldn’t I have a self-cleaning house??) It can be easy to wish away the day, to wish for more excitement, but why? We need to learn to be content with quiet happiness.

One of my favorite quotes that describes this is from Jenkin Lloyd Jones:

“Anyone who imagines that bliss is normal is going to waste a lot of time running around shouting that he has been robbed. Life is like an old-time rail journey—delays, sidetracks, smoke, dust, cinders and jolts, interspersed only occasionally by beautiful vistas and thrilling bursts of speed. The trick is to thank the Lord for letting you have the ride.”

Am I saying that you should learn to be happy in a miserable situation? No way! Take charge of your situation and make changes if you need to. But quiet contentment is BEAUTIFUL. Some of my favorites in my life currently are going to the grocery store as a family, or all of us cramming into the comfy chair together in the evening, or going for a drive in the country. And when I think back on my happy times in my childhood, the things that come to mind are family nights at home when we couldn’t contain our giggles, not vacations and or a trip to Disneyland. And while I have enjoyed our days that would be considered monumental, I am learning the importance of being happy in my daily life as well.

In motherhood, sometimes it is easy to think that I want certain things to pass by, like an illness, or teething, or certain phases. But really, each phase is wonderful in its own way, and I am doing my best to soak up every moment. Plus, I get more cuddles when my little man is feeling icky, and who can complain about sweet baby cuddles??

When I think back on my life, I want to be able to say that I lived in the moment, and appreciated what I had. I’ve been working hard to slow down, be ok with accomplishing less, and finding happiness in small things. This doesn’t magically turn our lives into sunshine, rainbows and unicorns, but it can help us see the small rays of light in our daily lives.

So hold that baby for a few more minutes. The dishes can wait. Don’t only take pictures and write in your journal about exciting events. Take a picture of your family having a movie night, or making a blanket fort. Don’t forget to enjoy today.

6 thoughts on “When it’s not the Greatest Day of Your Life

  1. I wrote a blog post that was picked up by a few other websites called The Blessings of Pain where I talk about the fact that there are actually benefits to struggle. Kind of goes along with your topic here. The big things in life are busy. The little things are precious, but even the bad things can teach us.

    1. That really is true! We learn so much from our struggles, and from the rough patches in our lives. Thanks for your comment JoJo!

  2. A beautiful reminder! And one more thing I wish I’d done more when my little ones were babies … pull out the video camera more. Not just for Christmas, but for bedtime songs or toddling around the backyard. They grow so fast and change so fast – I wish I had done that more.

    1. Thanks Kimberly! And I love the video camera suggestion, it’s really special to capture a moment in time like that :).

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