Advice Column: Response to Overwhelmed and Coming Undone

Dear Hailey,

As inappropriate as it feels to ‘need’ a baby shower, my husband was JUST laid off a number of weeks ago and we, after several miscarriages, are finally expecting our first child in August.

My successful, established, younger sister very recently announced her impending nuptials for 3 weeks after our due date.

My mother, just yesterday, decided to no longer throw a baby shower for us until October at the earliest but I have been charged with organizing the bridal shower, set for 2 weeks prior to due date.


I’m feeling rather snubbed, however we have not openly … Read more

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Advice Column: Response to Fed up

Dear Hailey,

My friend is wanting to divorce her husband, for various and valid reasons,and they have a child together. She has moved out from their home together and is living with her parents again, which she is struggling with. She is having a hard time moving on from the idea of an intact family, but continues to spend a lot of time at her former home with the ex and their child (who is also having trouble accepting the change).

This feels a lot like playing house to me, and it seems like it’s confusing for everyone because she … Read more

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Advice Column: Start Fresh or Continue on?

Dear Hailey,

I met a smart, fun, successful, beautiful, and fiery lawyer 3 years ago while working in DC. It was the best year of my life to that point dating her. We married a year later and she moved to Colorado. The marriage was great for 9 months, and then we let the stresses of work, parenting, finances, and being 2 alpha personalities get the better of us and we got into a volatile environment that we were unable to resolve. I moved from our marital home with my kids after a year of marriage to remove them from … Read more

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Advice Column: Response to Hurt in Chapel Hill

Dear Hailey,


A friend of mine was recently married. We’ve been close for six years; the first three spent in the same city and the more recent three spent several hours apart when she moved 200 miles east to be close to her family. I have spent holidays with her and am close with her mom and her sister as well.


She met the partner of her dreams and they would stay in my 2nd bedroom whenever they’d come back this way to visit. We remained close and would talk on the phone regularly, and I was one of the … Read more

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Advice Column: Response to Concerned

Dear Hailey,

This is my first time writing into an advice column. My sister and mother are currently fighting and it’s getting vicious, they almost punched each other out tonight. My sister treats my mother with zero respect and almost ignores her daughter who is in the care of my mother, my mother is sick of it and has said very hurtful things to my sister like how the car that my grandmother left for her wasn’t hers and that the only reason the registration is in her name is because it’s cheaper.

My mother is also wanting her to … Read more

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Advice Column: Ultimatums

Dear Hailey,

How should I go about dealing with not liking my boyfriend’s friends?

Some background context: my boyfriend and I met and started dating two months ago in one of our college classes which we share together. At first, everything was great, sparks flew, I was quite swept off my feet by this guy (and I’m well aware this is how the honeymoon phase always starts). However, as time goes by and you start to get closer to someone, you start to notice certain things you don’t like about the person.

We talk about a lot of things and … Read more

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Advice Column: Response to “Closed In”

Dear Hailey,

My spouse is from a small tight knit family with no extended family. We were recently invited to go with them from CA to AZ for a visit to the Grand Canyon. We agreed to go, took the time off work and got everything in order to make it happen. One day before the event, her family decided it would be a good idea to get an RV instead of staying in the hotel we had planned. What should I do?

Closed in

Dear Closed in,

I gather from your letter that you aren’t on board with the … Read more

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Advice Column: Response to Anonymous

Dear Hailey,

My best friend has had a giant crush on this guy that doesn’t like her back for a long time now. She is, quite frankly, obsessed. All of our conversations revert back to him. And she doesn’t seem to realize that she is worth so much more than this guy, who is, in reality, a player and total jerk. But all she sees is the two times he was nice to her.

This has been going on for almost two years now, and it just keeps getting worse. Everyday she feels like crap because she concludes that the … Read more

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Advice Column: Response to Fair or Share

Dear Hailey,

I have been married to my husband for 15 years. I came into this marriage with pretty much nothing but love to offer. I have given and received plenty of that. My husband is very comfortable financially. I signed a pre-nuptial before we were married. After 15 years I am wondering if I am wrong for what I’m feeling.

My husband has three boys of his own and I have only one girl. His children never think to wish him Happy Birthday or Father’s Day for the most part. And when they do get gifts for him they … Read more

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Advice Column-Stuck with Clingy

Hi Hailey.

For a long time, I’ve had a certain friend who bothered me. When I was little, I would dislike her but continue to hang out with her because she lived close to me. She was on my bus every day and impossible to avoid. As I grew older, I learned the “clinginess” I hated was actually due to a kind of social processing disorder. As I got older, I hung out with her less and less. She starting clinging onto a new friend. But that friend moved schools, and now I’m stuck with clingy. Wherever I go, she … Read more

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