7 Things to Remember When Life gets Really, Really Crappy

You may have noticed that the blog has been quiet. I’ve been answering advice column questions as they come through, but other than that there really hasn’t been any new content up on the blog in a few months. There have been a multitude of events happening in our household, all exciting, some positive, some not so much, and all incredibly exhausting. One very wonderful fact is that I am 31 weeks pregnant with our second little munchkin! Things are settling in (a little) so I’m back!

2019 has been one of my toughest years yet. But I’m still here! … Read more

How to Stop From Falling Over the Edge

We’ve all been there, everything is just hunky dory and suddenly, it happens. You start to feel an impending sense of dread, of anxiety, or a giant wave of depression that makes you want to turn around and go back to bed. Maybe something triggered this, but maybe it just appeared out of nowhere, like a monster in an unfortunate magic show.

What do you do now? Here are some options to avoid spiraling into a full blown depressive episode or panic attack:

1. Take a quick inventory of yourself

Have you eaten today? Taken a shower? Are you dehydrated? … Read more

14 Ways to Help Your Child Cope with Anxiety

A dear friend asked me a couple months ago for suggestions with helping kids with anxiety. These suggestions come from my experience as a mental health professional, a mom, and a human with anxiety. Here is what you need to know, and some ideas on how to help your child cope.

Anxiety presents differently in young kids than in adults

It will often present itself as physical symptoms, such as a stomach ache. This can happen with adults too, but since kids are still figuring out their emotions, how they work, and what triggers them, they don’t always recognize negative … Read more

8 Tips for Dealing with a Jerk

It’s an unfortunate fact of life that we will encounter some jerks as we go about our lives. I had the displeasure of coming across one of the meanest people I have ever met this week. I am very proud to say that I kept my cool and I treated them with respect. And in true Hailey fashion I wrote a post about it! (This post focuses on people you may come across in public. If you are in a situation where you are being abused in your home, call the domestic violence hotline at 1-800-799-7233)

Here are my tips … Read more

7 Things to Say to Someone who is Struggling (Other than “What can I do for you?”)

We’ve all been in the situation where someone is struggling, and we say, “Let me know what I can do for you.” We walk away feeling charitable because we offered, and they leave feeling about the same because they almost definitely are NOT going to call.

So, what’s a better alternative?

First off…bring your offer into the present.

You’re talking to someone who is already struggling. Don’t put it on them to reach out to you to ask for something at a later date. They are living day to day anyway, and not thinking a lot about future.

Here are … Read more

10 Ways to Survive the Winter Blues

Let’s get real for a second. Winter is hard. I live in Idaho, and moved here from California. It’s been a pretty big adjustment, especially the winter. In the part of California I grew up in, winters are very moderate. With very few exceptions, it’s unheard of for it to get cold enough for snow.

Here in Idaho…it’s not rare to find ourselves in negative degrees Fahrenheit. When it’s too cold and too dry for it to snow! (I never knew that was even possible!) Cold enough where you take a deep breath of the fresh air, and find yourself … Read more

6 Ways to Stop the Cranky Pants Dance

We all know that one person. The person who could be on fire with a stick in their eye, and they would still tell you they were “living the dream”. The person that simultaneously aggravates and impresses us. We want to smack them and also be them. Their lives aren’t inherently better than anyone else’s, they simply know how to cope with life and it’s many adventures, wanted and unwanted. Here are some tips to help YOU be that aggravating person who is unfailing cheerful!

 

Validate your emotions

Emotions don’t go away suddenly when you decide you don’t want … Read more

What to Buy for a Baby Shower Gift (For any Budget!)

Before I had my son, I was super clueless on what to buy friends for baby showers. I would wander the baby aisle in the store for longer than I care to admit and eventually end up randomly choosing a few items and calling it good.

Sometimes the mom-to-be will have a registry, but if this is her first kid she might not have a clue of what to register for, and has left it up to you. Or maybe you got to the registry late, and only the really expensive items are left. You have to figure out what … Read more